Tuesday, October 7, 2014

StyleMInt- Didn't ya Know, Didn't ya know>




Hey all, I have always been a fan of the Mints. ShoeMint, JewelMint, and StyleMint. They have increased in their pricing since first hitting the web but you can find some cute, different pieces on sale when they have them.

If you are unfamiliar with Stylemint-StyleMint was created in 2011 in collaboration with Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, who shared our desire to bring women everywhere the perfect T, at an affordable price. Fascinated by fit, fabric, and construction, our purpose was to create a designer quality T for $30.

Check out my faves right now on StlyeMint. Too bad they are full priced!

Minty Meets Munt Leona Dress 
$149.00
Reason Alma Mater Varsity Jacket 
$125.00

Pearce Dress
$79.98


Skargon Sister Tee
Too high but super cute!



Monday, October 6, 2014

Motivational Monday- Marsha Ambrosius- OMG I Miss You

Happy Monday. I love Marsha Ambrosius's voice but this last CD really speaks to me. There are a lot of songs that remind me of love. ...   Today is a funky day for me but music helps. This song is very poetic.



If you miss someone let them know.  Even if you just saw them yesterday or an hour ago. Even if you pushed them away.... Don't expect too much just let them know.



Have a nice Monday lovebugs!





Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Beach Trip Ideas

Here a few ideas for a beach getaway as fall has arrived and you, like me, have not been to the beach this year. So a quick weekend trip is in need. These are inexpensive. A mix of relaxation and partying! You pick.

If you want a condo, www.vrbo.com is a cool site to browse to find comfort and/or luxury.

 

 



Miami Beach, Fl




Wanna get away?

Love is.... Truth of it all!


Just wanted to share... Someone needs it....




Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Resentment- I Love You but I Hate You

Disclaimer: This will be deep. I am working on myself. I am fixing my life to get to the life I want! I fucked up in many areas this past couple of years. Excuse my French but it is true. In going through many occurrences, I have found that many of my actions and choices have been out of despair, untouched issues, and things I could not control. All of this being said, I am a true believer that our tests and trials are not for us to dwell on but to share. I've always thought that. I've always known that this life isn't about me; I am here to give of myself to others- in a service and sharing type of way. I believe that our experiences mold us but also grow us like fertilized soil for the soul. I don't want to write these thoughts on Facebook as there are so many cruel folks out there now that won't receive what this is. Yet, it is an assignment for self. Here we go- remember this will be an "ouch". It will be deep. So whosoever reads this- know that it is only real and I'm processing all of this while I put it in words. 

"I love you but I hate you"is kind of harsh to deliver to someone because they won't understand it as you intend. I am hating this person for being oblivious to the fact that he had a responsibility. He had 2 children with my mom, not 1 but 2. I have been numb to the fact that he was absent in my life until recently. True, I bring up the issues I have in general with men not being there for their children but never really harped on the reality that my father was never ever there for me. Know that you don't have to purchase hundreds of dollars worth of stuff to be a father. You don't have to send money. Which he didn't do that either.  You have to try to spend quality time. Share experiences, stories, lessons, and history.  No one can take time spent back. 



 I was blessed to have my grandfather. To this day I believe he was a God send. Yet, he died when I was 16. He taught me how to survive, how to be independent, what a man is to their woman, to his family, to the world. However, he was taken way too soon in my opinion. 

My mom, was strong enough to never say one bad thing about my dad. My grandfather told me that he knew my father would never be around and that I need to make a way to be self -sufficient and not to ever date a man who wants me to take care of him or who was not a provider. God sent me a perfect mate, an ideal husband- and I fucked that up. That story is for another day. This is not to get pity but I'm aware now what my void was. 

No man, can take the place of the mandatory man that is to be there to raise, guide, protector, model, and be a figure for me. Any man can donate sperm and a Y chromosome to make a child. I needed my father. 

I haven't went through life knowingly looking for a father in my boyfriends or husband. Subconsciously, I could have been. I have pictures embedded in my mind when he was with us when we were 1,2,3... Nothing after. I have memories of him saying he would could get me and I sat on the porch until dusk to no avail. So did I dwell? No. But I have found I resent him. 

My loss of him and my grandfather left me at 16 with questions to God, questions about men, no father figure to root me on and tell me I was beautiful. He wasn't even around after I was raped and had to heal in secrecy between my mother and I. He was never at my graduations (I've had many), my wedding, most of all I hate him for leaving my growing younger brother. It was harder for him because I had a strong positive self esteem and self worth that was instilled in me by mom
and grandad. My brother needed him. It was rough on the streets of the west side of Chicago. The peer pressure of gangs and wanting to be hard was real. I was kind of automatically appointed to be a big sister, a mother, and a protector of us all after my grandad left. I hate my dad for not stepping up. It was yesterday that I realized and accepted the fact that I'm harboring all of this. It has indeed caused me to make some poor choices. Though, this is not to blame anyone.

I love him for bringing me into the world to experience this thing called life. I hate him for his absence. My growth from this is to pray for him. To allow him to communicate with me - as I have been cold in my ignoring of his messages or small attempts to even say hi. I will let go of what isn't and be grateful for what is. My brother is alive and well. My mom has moved on and is happy. I completed high school, undergraduate, graduate, and doctorate school of pharmacy. I've been blessed to have had 6 beautiful years of marriage and a smart, funny, beautiful spirited almost 3 year old. I have 5 other siblings who I am trying to build a bond.  I am not too damaged...  I am on my road to becoming whole. I don't want to hate him I want  to love him. I do not want to have questions in my mind of why he did what he did or didn't do. If he knew, it would have not played out this way. I believe God removes people for our own good. Who knows what it would have been. I do know know I am blessed to have had the childhood I did minus a few major traumatic events. Know that we can get through anything. ANYTHING. With prayer, friendship(blessed to have some great ones), strength and perseverance. 



If you have any comments please share. If you want to share with someone, please do. It's all good. 

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